Geographic location is a significant factor in the establishment of friendships. Adult friendships develop under different terms than those of children or adolescents. Adults often meet their friendships through work oriented activities or education related events such as returning to college.
Adults seek out friends for different reasons. Friendships are often sought out because of mutual interest or circumstances. For example: A person at work who has a common problem may find himself sharing the situation and it leads to friendship. Quite often those friendships end when a person leaves to go to another job.
Friendships between opposite sex lay out boundaries in the early stages of the friendship. If the boundaries are not laid out or not kept the dynamics of the friendship changes.
In order for a bond to form people must interact with one another in a mutual pattern. If a person begins a conversation and the other person ignores him, the friendship can not develop unless on another try the inter-exchange is established.
People also tend to establish friendships based on their perceptions of others. If a person identifies a person’s culture or race in a negative manner, he is less likely to approach the person or respond to the person with friendship.
Adults have a variety of friend types. They rage from work friends, acquaintances, friends from their neighborhood, friends established through their children, friendships from previous jobs or locations, mates or partners, relatives, sports partners, and gym partners. Of course they may meet and establish friendships in other ways as well. For example: Two persons at a doctor's appointment may strike up a conversation over a topic and find they have a common interest which leads to them following up with a phone call and lunch.
Friendships are not that unpredictable. Most adult friends are in the same economic group, share common values and beliefs, and provide reciprocity in terms of supporting one another.
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