How does "Everyday Use" represent conflict between generation?

Alice Walker was fascinated with women of her mother's generation.  She expresses this in "Everyday Use" (Mrs. Johnson), The Color Purple (Celie, Sophia), and her poem "Women":

They were women then
My mama's generation
Husky of voice- Stout of Step
With fists as well as hands

How they battered down doors
And ironed
Starched white shirts
How they led Armies

Headragged Generals
Across mined fields
Booby-trapped ditches
To discover books desks

A place for us
How they knew what we must know           
Without knowing a page of it themselves.

These women, Mrs. Johnson, and the women in The Color Purple (Celie, Sophia) were uneducated, even illiterate because they lived in the Jim Crow South.  Their primary goals were to educate their daughters' Civl Rights generation: Dee, Alice Walker, Adam, Olivia (in The Color Purple).  Their role as matriarchs was find educational resources for their daughters that they never had.

The problem is that on Civil Rights era daughter, Deem takes her mother's hard work and self-suffeciency for granted.  She exploits her hard work and struggle as an emblem of African nationalism instead of sacrifice.